Sunday, November 11, 2012
Worthy, Precious, Loved
Yesterday I posted about What I Want my Kids to Know. When I first wrote this into my journal, I planned to print it to go in their rooms. I talk to them already about worthiness, about relationship, about love that exists outside of their behavior.
On one particularly memorable day we were walking home from the park, and child 1 was screaming and crying very loudly and dramatically. I told her, quietly, that although her behavior was not very good at the moment, she was good and I still loved her. She was still a precious soul.
She started screaming (very loudly), "I don't love you! YOU ARE NOT PRECIOUS!" We did this all the way home, me saying things like, "I hear that you are angry. This is not acceptable behavior. But I still love you," and her screaming, "NOOOOO! I don't love you! I DO NOT LOVE YOU!"
My mom says she is too young to understand when I say these things to her, and maybe that's true. But what is the magical number? I don't know at what point she will understand, and I want these truths, You are worthy, You are loved, You are a precious soul, to be the first things that she remembers.
Not getting pushed off the slide at school. Not making me proud for doing something well. Not learning to write her name. Not the arrival of her sister. Not who said something mean at school. Not how to make me smile.
All those things matter too, but they are not what I want to be first. When she is my age and doubt and insecurity and fear slip into her bed, I want the deepest, farthest back thing, the words pressed right up against her heart, to be Worthy, Loved, Precious. Even if I'm no longer able to say it. Even if no one else says it.
A commenter yesterday pointed out that this is a message for all of us, really. No matter how old we are, no matter what our deepest words are, this is what the Father whispers to us. You too are worthy. You too are loved. You too are precious. Without condition.
If you'd like to print a copy of this for your house you can do that HERE.